What would make you happy?
A bigger house? Luxury car? Ben – a couple more considerate? Maybe you’ll be happier if finally finish everything on your list?
None of these will make you unhappy by research psychologists.
Is money makes happiness? According to studies published from time to time, the richest countries are not necessarily the happiest. In general, gain better today than in the past, but people are not happier.
Positive psychology is the development and studies have shown that happiness can not be achieved through luck. The happiest people are those living in the present and future goals are targeted.
How can you be happier?
When developmental psychologists attend to universal way men are – a person perceive the world, they assume that this aspect of human nature should have an advantage at some point. Throughout evolutionary history, certain types passed from generation to generation that people with the same qualities were more likely to survive and give birth to a new generation. Other features are gone because no increased survival.
What is the relationship between natural selection and happiness? Benny – Adam inherited a remarkable ability to adapt to certain things. Adaptability value is important when encountering extreme situations or harmful situations. Over time, not paying attention to these unpleasant circumstances. Unfortunately, this phenomenon is also correct billing aspects of life – no matter what the pleasure arising from a new experience, whether it lasts a certain time, get used to it. What makes us happy at a certain moment will not make us happy the next.
In addition, we pay attention to the negative side more easily than the positive side. Developmentally, negative changes were more important for survival because they were probably signify danger. Our brains tuned to pay attention to problems. Therefore, we think positive experiences are natural and focus on the negative aspects of life.
Also, a little voice in our brain prevents us from being provided. He continually reminds us that our lives were much better had we only … if only we would do …
We are always looking for a better life. Why, then, some people happier than others? You would think that happy people are those obtained happier life. But it turns out that happiness depends more on personality than life circumstances. Events come and go, but the personality characteristics and behavior remain the same situation.
When it comes to happiness, every event can change the mode of thinking, to make us happy, at least for certain. However, we get used to things as they are and satisfaction returns to its starting position. This initial state – a fixed point of happiness – is it characterizes the personality. Why do some people have a higher idle mode? In other words – why are happier easily?
Psychologists have found common features for people with a higher level of happiness. People who claim they are extroverts happier, kinder, with greater security and are more dedicated. Also they think they control better their lives and suffer less anxiety and mood swings.
These features are also associated with happiness-related features for success and self-fulfillment. If so, can we achieve happiness through hard work or by the desire?
Life today is based on the hypothesis that we can achieve or buy happiness, which increases competition and consumption. However, since there is no connection between the wealth of happiness, one can doubt this hypothesis.
Think about it - What is the relationship between success and happiness?
Tendency that in people – human to compare themselves to people who are more successful than them is called “upward comparison”. This comparison is the one that causes dissatisfaction. When we are aware that other people do far better of us, our satisfaction decreases. However, when we compare ourselves to people who get along as good as us, we are more doubtful. The problem is that we normally compare ourselves up.
Even if we are in direct competition with other people, we should not link the goals of happiness and fulfillment – people who focus on achievable goals all the time are less likely to be happy people live more in the present. Some people are looking obsessively to achieve the goals and objectives set by themselves and think that happiness depends on their success. Thus, they are often worried, anxious and stressed as long as they have not achieved the goals and think they will be happy in the future.
But what happens when they achieve the goals?
So habit takes over again and they are back like everyone to baseline of happiness. They pay attention to their happiness has not changed regularly, they conclude that he is even further above the target.
This approach is wrong. We think the possibilities for happiness higher future happiness of the present situation. This tendency is reinforced by the media and advertisements promising us always more satisfaction and happiness when we get something more. People who focus on achievable goals tend to always choose new targets, convinced that this time they found the true way that leads to happiness.
However – the people who succeed are happier. Is it possible that you should insist to succeed?
On 2005 research was conducted at the University of California Sbkd the relationship between happiness and success. The result was that happiness and good humor are important factors for success. The happiest people are not necessarily happier after success than before success, but they are happier than other people do worse.
Therefore, there is a relationship between success and happiness, but success is the result of good mood and not the cause. People happy there are other features that apparently sticks to success. In addition, a good mood is a source of motivation for more and more of the environment.
How do you get happiness when the base is not happy by nature?
It turns out that the happiest people are those who live fully optimal experience – total and interesting experiences that provide motivation to a specific person. This does not mean they are necessarily optimal experience unpleasant, but they are not too boring and not too frustrating – they are man enough to challenge them to devote all the attention.
If so, it is important to work on higher quality of life in the present in order to be successful in the future.